Something’s Missing

“The only thing in life that’s constant is change”. As cliched as that may sound, it’s the only cliche that’s always valid.

Think about it.

You assume you will always be with your school friends. After all they are the ones who consoled you after your first heartbreak, the ones who knew you so well, whose house you could enter anytime of the day and go straight to the fridge. Their parents knew you so well that they recognized your voice when you called, and then hours later wondered how much you could possibly have to talk about after spending the whole day in school together. You spent that time talking in code words, making plans to meet in the evening, and just laughing. It was a whole other experience when you could conference another friend into the conversation. (I’m sure my parents were ever so grateful for free calling!)

So there we were with our best friends, ready to take on the world and grow old together. There was nothing to stop you – that was until you all moved to different countries for further studies.

And that’s your first tryst with ‘change’.

But then you meet your college friends. If you’re lucky, then some of your school friends will accompany you to college as well. You make new memories, and there are new heartbreaks. And through it all, you find out who your friends are. They are the ones who you laze around your house with, deciding where to have dinner, who you go dancing with till the wee hours of the morning, who spend the crucial hours before the exam together cramming in whatever you can, who takes you the doctor when you’re sick, who lends you money when you are left with none at the end of the month, with whom even long rides in silence are pure bliss! After school, you thought you’d never meet a group as crazy, as dysfunctional, or even as comforting, but you do. And it’s perfect.

Just when you find yourself at the peak, ‘change’ comes knocking again. We take the next step in our life – career or further studies – alone.

A new place. A new environment. You need to do it all again. But then your work friends get new jobs, move away, and the cycle, continues.

But pause for a minute there. How about you look at this “cycle” as a ladder instead? With each step you take in life, you climb one rung of the ladder. Where ‘change’ plays a part, you probably take longer to take that next step on the ladder, but you eventually get it done.

At the end of it, you find yourself on top of that ladder, carrying a whole load of patience and experience with you – baggage you didn’t even realise you had.

So as Charles Schulz put it, “I think I’ve discovered the secret of life – you just hang around until you get used to it” because despite change, life does go on.


2 thoughts on “Something’s Missing

  1. Oh I love the end! But it is heartbreaking. People moving away, things changing. I don’t know how I’ll ever get used to it. And considering you’ve done so much more of it than I’ll ever be willing to – hats off 🙂 And, for all the relationships, friendships and situations that change – there are those few that stick around. They change too, but atleast they’re still there, some semblance of what they used to be.

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